Tuesday, 12 May 2015

Second follow up

So this morning I received a call from the receptionist connected office that is handling prep leading up to my hope for bypass surgery.   Originally they had scheduled my second follow up appointment for tomorrow afternoon for 1 o'clock.  The first words out of her mouth was that they had to reschedule.  Honestly in that second I think my heart dropped.  Thankfully she offered me 2 options another appointment in 4 weeks time, or a slot tomorrow at 1015 am.  So without even talking to my boss, I just took the morning appointment and figured I would either work it out with or take the day off.

Anyways the day is sorted out and now my appointment is scheduled for tomorrow morning.  My understanding of it is that at tomorrow's appointment is the final one.  I will either be accepted to the program or not. I've done what I've been asked, there hasn't been a lot of weight lost since I started but I've made a lot of changes.  Anyways fingers are crossed, I just hope I actually find out tomorrow rather then having to wait several weeks to hear back.

If I'm not accepted I've been told that there is always the possibility of being given another chance.  Apparently the odds of that are very slim.

I'll let you know how it goes when I do.

Sunday, 10 May 2015

Weekend of Rest

It was the last weekend before the insanity begins.  For the most part it was a pretty good and relaxing weekend.  We had our gaming group over on Friday night and for the first time we tried out Savage Worlds. The Saturday we had our monthly MAsT (Masters and slaves Together) meeting. Finally Sunday was spent doing things around the house and ended with the kids coming over for dinner and a visit to help celebrate mothers day. Three major events all of which were very different. All in all I'd say it was a very successful weekend.

Lets start with Friday; it had been a long day at work one that as normal I was sure was never going to end.  Thankfully in the end it ended like it always does.  That evening we used pre-generated characters, their mission was to protect Samuel Clemens while he traveled to give a special.  All in all the game was more then a little on the slow side for what I had intended to run.  I was surprised to learn that it had been run as a convention game in the past.  There wasn't enough to grab the players attention right from the start.  In the end we called the game early but made it far enough to show me that I really enjoyed the system and also the setting.

Sadly for me the night didn't end after the game.  I couldn't for the life of me convince myself that I should go to sleep.  In the end I was awake until about 4 in the morning.

Saturday we did a bunch of puttering around but the main event of the day was our monthly MAsT meeting.  tamile, naviara and I were presenting on Poly and Power Exchange.  We talked about a lot of different aspects of our life and how things work in our household. The rituals and rules that the ladies have as well as the punishment dynamic.  Those attending the discussion seemed to get a lot out of it.  They asked a number of hard questions, and we as a trouple really opened ourselves up to the audience and shared somethings really close to the heart and personal.   I was really honoured at at the end when a number of people came forward and thanks us all for sharing what we did.

Anyways its time for bed at this point.  I want to close by saying that Sunday was really nice and a great way to spend time with family.

I hope you enjoyed a post that wasn't about weightloss

Wednesday, 29 April 2015

Weight Loss

A lots being going on as of late, and as much as I want to be blogging about it more I am still having a hard time making this into a regular ongoing habit.  It is something that I'm going to have to keep working on & and it is only going to get harder from here.  As the summer continues my life is only going to get busier from here.

The last couple of weeks I have been really focused on getting my activity level up, tracking my food to stay under calories, and up my fruit intake.  Since I've started doing this I've been able to bring my weight down by 7lbs.  It feels really good to have been able to pull this off, and it has left me feeling great about myself.  Weight loss is a strange paradox,  It is hard to get started and then once you start having some success at it, the benefits start to really show through and make a huge difference in your life that you want to do more and more to encourage it.

Anyways on the subject of it feeling good, I should head out and go for a walk.

Sunday, 19 April 2015

A Game thing on fetlife

Talista was kind enough to give me the number 21
It’s a game!

To keep the game going, if you hit "love", I'll give you a number (between 1 and 50) and you then have to write that number of facts about yourself. Comment all you like, but if you "love" it, you get a number. I was given 21 by Talista

Here's my go at this:

1) I've been married over 20 years, and have had a girlfriend for 5 years
2) I am struggling a lot with my weight, which has been bouncing around 400 pounds for several years.
3) I've traveled a lot: Hawaii (12 months of my life), England, Cruise, Blackhills, North & South Dakota (A lot), Minnesota, Ohio, Illinois, Wisconson, all of Western Canada, Toronto, California, Florida.  I hope to keep traveling as the opportunity presents itself.
4) My all time favorite movie is Oscar staring Sylvestor Stallion.
5) I didn't graduate High School until I turned 25
6) I have two daughters that I love very much, and four grandchild(9, 2, 2, 8 months) One made me a grandfather before I was 30.
7) I identify as bisexual but have very limited experience with other men.
8) I love games of all sorts, Board game, Card Games, video games.  I've even designed several games, and even published one.
9) When I first started out the BDSM commmunity I was terrified by most of the stuff going on around me.
10) I've been blogging on and off since before November 2007 and have kept them same blog since that day.
11) Only once in my life have I fired a gun and it was a really exciting experience that I hope to try again.
12) I like to organize, I believe that community benefits from strong active groups.
13) Despite all the traveling I've done (see #3) the most memorable trip of my live was my 7 day whirlwind Little House on the Prairies Road trip I made with tamile.
14) I'm a cat person, but I don't mind dogs.
15) I've had everything from a really long mullet to a completely shaved head, I've had it spiked in an 8 inch mohawk that was dyed the colours of the British flag, and I've dyed it a golden blonde.
16) I've done the Colour Me Rad Run twice, and this year I intend to run it and not just walk most of it.  I love the feeling I get when I go out to start running.
17) The first several times I proposed to tamile she laughed in my face.
18) I enjoy vacuuming.
19) I have very little to do with my blood family
20) I love to cook and bake but don't feel like I am very good at it.  Also when I do I need a reciepe
21) By the end of the year I will have attended 8 different science fiction / gaming conventions.

Saturday, 18 April 2015


In the mundane life I've been super busy with work.  The company decided to cross train a number of people from my department in to a completely different area.  We are still doing what we used to do but now we do more as well.  Over all from a business point of view I understand it, and can see how it will lead to less people having to be transferred from one department to another.That being said this new area isn't easy.  There are a lot of different situations that have to be remembered, and a lot of cases where if one thing happens then three of other things need to be remembered.  All in all I'm trying to make the best of the situation since I really don't have any control over it.  Hopefully in the long run it will work out

Household wise the girlfriend is facing some personal situation which is playing out across the whole household.  I'm not going to go into any details about it here because honestly it isn't my story to share.  It did lead to a few surprise revelations and some personal insight which I feel pretty good about over all.  I'm also confident that we will all come out of this stronger for it on the other side both as individuals and and as a household.

So I've pretty much always been the type of person who people can talk to.  I'll meet someone and within a few days if they need someone to talk with I am often that person.  I just have the gift of listening, I'm able to be something of sounding board for people.  I try not to offer advice and just let them draw there own conclusions.  People come to me to vent and to bitch, what they never do is come to me for advice, that changed this past week.

During last week I was approached by two separate people who came to me asking for advice.  It felt really strange to me on a lot of levels to have someone asking for my input and who wanted to learn from my experience.  I was honestly a little apprehensive at first, I often look for the catch in situations, you know trying to figure out how things are going to back fire on me or this some sort of trap.  I'm more then a little paranoid about things like that at times.

The first person asked if we could talk but wasn't to clear on what the subject would be.  When we did meet he wanted to ask about my experiences as a Master and how we make our relationship work.  Apparently it is seen as a success by many people.  I consider to be one but had know idea that other people felt the same way.  It felt really good to talk about it and in some ways brag about it.

After both discussion I can say that it felt really good to be someone that people felt they could talk to and get advice from.