Sunday, 19 April 2015

A Game thing on fetlife

Talista was kind enough to give me the number 21
It’s a game!

To keep the game going, if you hit "love", I'll give you a number (between 1 and 50) and you then have to write that number of facts about yourself. Comment all you like, but if you "love" it, you get a number. I was given 21 by Talista

Here's my go at this:

1) I've been married over 20 years, and have had a girlfriend for 5 years
2) I am struggling a lot with my weight, which has been bouncing around 400 pounds for several years.
3) I've traveled a lot: Hawaii (12 months of my life), England, Cruise, Blackhills, North & South Dakota (A lot), Minnesota, Ohio, Illinois, Wisconson, all of Western Canada, Toronto, California, Florida.  I hope to keep traveling as the opportunity presents itself.
4) My all time favorite movie is Oscar staring Sylvestor Stallion.
5) I didn't graduate High School until I turned 25
6) I have two daughters that I love very much, and four grandchild(9, 2, 2, 8 months) One made me a grandfather before I was 30.
7) I identify as bisexual but have very limited experience with other men.
8) I love games of all sorts, Board game, Card Games, video games.  I've even designed several games, and even published one.
9) When I first started out the BDSM commmunity I was terrified by most of the stuff going on around me.
10) I've been blogging on and off since before November 2007 and have kept them same blog since that day.
11) Only once in my life have I fired a gun and it was a really exciting experience that I hope to try again.
12) I like to organize, I believe that community benefits from strong active groups.
13) Despite all the traveling I've done (see #3) the most memorable trip of my live was my 7 day whirlwind Little House on the Prairies Road trip I made with tamile.
14) I'm a cat person, but I don't mind dogs.
15) I've had everything from a really long mullet to a completely shaved head, I've had it spiked in an 8 inch mohawk that was dyed the colours of the British flag, and I've dyed it a golden blonde.
16) I've done the Colour Me Rad Run twice, and this year I intend to run it and not just walk most of it.  I love the feeling I get when I go out to start running.
17) The first several times I proposed to tamile she laughed in my face.
18) I enjoy vacuuming.
19) I have very little to do with my blood family
20) I love to cook and bake but don't feel like I am very good at it.  Also when I do I need a reciepe
21) By the end of the year I will have attended 8 different science fiction / gaming conventions.

Saturday, 18 April 2015


In the mundane life I've been super busy with work.  The company decided to cross train a number of people from my department in to a completely different area.  We are still doing what we used to do but now we do more as well.  Over all from a business point of view I understand it, and can see how it will lead to less people having to be transferred from one department to another.That being said this new area isn't easy.  There are a lot of different situations that have to be remembered, and a lot of cases where if one thing happens then three of other things need to be remembered.  All in all I'm trying to make the best of the situation since I really don't have any control over it.  Hopefully in the long run it will work out

Household wise the girlfriend is facing some personal situation which is playing out across the whole household.  I'm not going to go into any details about it here because honestly it isn't my story to share.  It did lead to a few surprise revelations and some personal insight which I feel pretty good about over all.  I'm also confident that we will all come out of this stronger for it on the other side both as individuals and and as a household.

So I've pretty much always been the type of person who people can talk to.  I'll meet someone and within a few days if they need someone to talk with I am often that person.  I just have the gift of listening, I'm able to be something of sounding board for people.  I try not to offer advice and just let them draw there own conclusions.  People come to me to vent and to bitch, what they never do is come to me for advice, that changed this past week.

During last week I was approached by two separate people who came to me asking for advice.  It felt really strange to me on a lot of levels to have someone asking for my input and who wanted to learn from my experience.  I was honestly a little apprehensive at first, I often look for the catch in situations, you know trying to figure out how things are going to back fire on me or this some sort of trap.  I'm more then a little paranoid about things like that at times.

The first person asked if we could talk but wasn't to clear on what the subject would be.  When we did meet he wanted to ask about my experiences as a Master and how we make our relationship work.  Apparently it is seen as a success by many people.  I consider to be one but had know idea that other people felt the same way.  It felt really good to talk about it and in some ways brag about it.

After both discussion I can say that it felt really good to be someone that people felt they could talk to and get advice from.

Monday, 30 March 2015


It has been a fairly rough week for me this past week food wise.  I've been snacking a lot!  Been keeping track of things in a fairly half assed manner in my fitness pal.  Mostly everything has been entered by the end of the day but ither isn't how the system works best and I know that.  

Today i am going to try and get back on the horse as it were.  Eat better, for which I have packed a lunch.  Update Myfitnesspal as I eat things rather then leaving it to the end of the day.  Finally making exercise a priority.

I knew going into this there would be slips and times when I would fail.  So I'm not going to dwell on it, I just want to move forward and get it behind me.

Tuesday, 24 March 2015

Keeping Busy

Things have been pretty insane as of late, I enjoyed a wonderful week off.  It was productive, it was fun, and most importantly it was relaxing.  The biggest disappointment of the vacation was that the weather had turned sour and I couldn't start running.  I was left with using the stationary bike, which I don't mind but isn't nearly as enjoyable as running. All it wasn't a good week for food and health.

Vacation came to an end with a brand new gaming convention out of Fargo, called dCON.  The weekend was a great trail run of the hotel that we use during our trips to Fargo.  It changed hands a couple of months after our last visit.  As a convention the weekend was great I got in a lot of really good games and tried a number of different new games. Also not a dud among the new games, which is always a plus.  I even got to try out a new roleplaying system that I had been curious about.

The most exciting part of the weekend for me was signing an contract with my artist for a game I am working on called Casting.  It was a very important step in the project.  When I have some more time I'll share a couple of the pictures and talk more about the game.

Anyways the vacation is over and now it is back to work both the day job and writing.

Tuesday, 10 March 2015

2 More Days

Its been a few months since I've had any serious time away from work.  Right now I've got 2 more shifts to go.  Both of which are only half days, thank god!  After that I've got a full week off work.  Which will be spent with friends and family. I'll be spending it writing, relaxing, and having a great week.    So expect more posts along the way.