Tuesday 15 September 2009

Life Update

For those of you who have been reading my blog long enough you might remember some of the challenges that my wife and I faced with our youngest daughter. She turned 18 a year ago this December and graduated a year ago this past June. This past year and a half has been a bit of an adventure in parenting. We realized that there is a little bit of time after graduating when you need to find yourself and discouver what you need to be doing but at the same time you do need to accept certain responsibilities.

Over the course of the year we have been told a lot of things, discouvered a lot of lies, and at times seen some amazing growth on the part of our daughter. After one year of being largely jobless apart from 29 days when she worked at a local daycare and a 2 month period when she took a paid job finding program, she has been without work. We decided that enough was enough and told her in June that she had until September to find a job or she would no longer be able to live with us. She has not found a job, and this past Friday she moved out. At this point she is couch surfing with various friends and keeping in lose contact with us.

Our hope is that this will be an incentive to find her own way and grow up in some of the ways that she really needs to. So fingers crossed, and candles lit that it works out the way we hope for her.

1 comment:

Laura Eno said...

It worked exactly that way with my son. After a few rocky months he learned so much about what he'd previously taken for granted. The change didn't happen overnight, but over the following 2 or 3 years his transformation was incredible. What you're doing is so tough for a parent, but so necessary.